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Is What You’re Working On Really Your “Big Thing?”

What are you trying to build right now? If you read Red Pill Reviews, you are a man on a mission, no doubt.

You have a passion. A vision. A grander calling. You’re going to BE SOMEBODY. Right?

So how are you doing that? ARE you doing that?

This is a guest post by Kyle Milligan.

What Are You Actually Doing?

I quit my full time job (actually I just walked out and texted my supervisor I wasn’t coming back) on February 16, 2016. Like you, I was going to be “be somebody.” But since then, I’ve done a lot of…nothing.

Sure, I’ve done some stuff. But not nearly enough. I look back and think “Wow, I massively underperformed in 2016.”

I think I struggled from something we all struggle with: Perfectionism.

Do you want your creation to be perfect? Do you want your product to be super unique and awe inspiring? Is this your first creation? Because if so you are probably messing up.

The truth is what you are working on right now, probably doesn’t matter MUCH. It matters, but only as part of the whole. Let me explain.

After I quit my job, I had a website, all99life.com. I was going to blog about my journey. When I quit, someone smarter than me liked what I was doing and offered to help my site for 10% equity. I said helllll no. That’s my site and it’s going to take me places. I’m not giving that up.

I knew all99life.com was my awesome thing. And it was MINE.

Well, I didn’t really know what I was doing then and I didn’t know how to grow an audience or monetize or any of that stuff.

I’ve since changed that site to a fitness blog and I don’t really mess with it all that much if I’m being honest. Looking back, I gladly would have traded 30% of my equity if I could have learned in a month or two what I probably still haven’t completely learned in a year.

The point is, I wasn’t looking at the bigger picture. I thought the first thing I made was going to be my BIG THING. This is THE BIG THING that’s gonna make my life awesome!

The First Thing You Try Probably Isn’t The “Big Thing” You Think It Is…

I thought my first girlfriend would be my wife. Wrong.

I thought my first job would be my career. Wrong.

I thought my first website would make me rich. Wrong.

I thought that about my first 4 books. I thought that about my author website realkylemilligan.com. And before all that I thought the same things about my Master’s degree and passing the CPA exams.

Had I known this in the past, it would have been so much easier to work! If I had treated everything as a learning experience, not “make or break,” I would have taken way more risks. Tried more things. Tested more ideas.

But I was tangled up by perfection thinking that what I had at that moment was the end-all be-all.

What I’m stressing here is: forget about perfection. The chances are whatever you’re working on, think of it as a new learning experience because that’s likely what is.

What I’ve discovered over the last year, is there aren’t many “Big Things.”

There is only working every day. It goes on and on, forever and ever. And if you want to continue to enjoy prosperity you have two options:

  1. Keep working
  2. Figure out a way to pay someone to work in your place

I write this today because I want to share this lesson with you. If I could go back and give Kyle Milligan of 2016 one piece of advice it would be to forget about the next big “IT.” It isn’t the big bomb I think I’m making that will set me free. It’s just putting in the work every day.

The pyramids were built one brick at a time, not all at once.

The pyramids were built one brick at a time, not all at once.

What You Should Do

When I stop working, the money stops coming. Crazy, right? Even on affiliate websites that are “passive” (you still have to make them and write the content).

It doesn’t matter so much what I do particularly, as much as it is that I KEEP GOING. That means showing up EVERY DAY.

Here’s what you do:

  1. Make a schedule of all the things you need to work on. For me that is a daily checklist of which website I need to update and which social profiles I have to post to, etc.
  2. Stick to it every day. Don’t let yourself go to sleep if all those boxes haven’t been checked off. Simple as that. If you draw a hard line like this, you’ll be surprised how much more you get done.

That thing that you just know in your gut is the game changer, it’s probably just another thing. And it may never even happen if you are bogged down by perfection.

You just gotta keep grinding. Day after day. Post after post. Book after book. Whatever it is you do. You just keep grinding and keep your nose to the grindstone.

One mediocre post or book won’t break you. One fantastic post won’t make you. It’s a bunch of those little things. The thing you’re working on now, get it out there. Sell it. Ship it. Get it out of your hands ASAP so you can start on the next thing.

Because it isn’t your ONE product that gets you moving. It’s your collection. It’s your backlist. It’s your loyal audience who checks in on the latest news and products. And that comes from not sweating the small stuff and just grinding every day. Doing all the little things so the big things take care of themselves.

Kyle Milligan is a new adult fiction author. His novels focus on the challenges of modern dating in the prominent hookup culture. Kyle’s books and dating advice can be found at realkylemilligan.com or on Twitter @realkmilli. Kyle also blogs on the topics of entrepreneurship and fitness at all99life.com; Twitter @all99kyle.

  • VALORFORFREEDOM.COM

    Bomb ass article. This is what I liked the most “Stick to it every day. Don’t let yourself go to sleep if all those boxes haven’t been checked off. Simple as that. If you draw a hard line like this, you’ll be surprised how much more you get done.”

    Great article 🙂

    • Thanks a lot my man. Glad you liked it!

  • Ryan

    AirBnB was created as a temporary way to make money while the founders thought of the ‘big idea’ . The company started with the founders literally renting air beds in their 2 bedroom to people attending a local design conference.

    I think the moral there is to just start, knowing that whatever it is will be the 1% that paves the way for the 99.
    It all starts with the 1%