The Key to Achieving Your Goals: Setting Priorities

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If you read this site, you want to become a better man.

You probably want to make more money, get more girls or simply improve your body.

Perhaps even all of the above.

That’s great and with time and consistent work, you can make huge improvements in every one of those areas.

However, you need to pick one to work on first.

You can’t split your focus into too many areas. Otherwise, you’ll end up not achieving anything.

You’ll spin your wheels for ages and eventually, give up.

Then, you’ll go on a forum and say that…

“You can’t make money online.”

“Improving your dating-life doesn’t work”

“Lifting weights won’t improve your body.”

Some of you might still believe the first of those statements actually. There was always a little doubt in my head whether I could make money online.

Until I did it myself of course.

That doubt stops a lot of men from getting started.

Which is good for me because there is less competition… but it’s a shame for you.

Seriously, just grab yourself a domain and web hosting and start your first niche site.

It doesn’t even matter whether this first one succeeds. Just get started and tweak your approach as you go along.

I hope that with the last example, I can get everyone’s agreement about how stupid that is.

Lifting weights will make you bigger and stronger. Yet, there are plenty of men and women who have completely failed at their training goals.


There are a bunch of reasons obviously.

Most internet marketers and bloggers would say those people used the wrong methods.

Sure, training smartly makes a big difference in your results.

But I think there is one factor that is more important than using the right methods…

Setting Priorities

Chris from GLL talks about making your number #1 goal your #1 priority.

Until recently, I didn’t understand the importance of this.

My own life experiences didn’t confirm his advice.

I had managed to build a cool social circle, get in good shape, improve my style and improve my dating options all at the same time.

It’s important to note that all of those goals complement each other.

Being in good shape makes it easier to make friends and get girls.

The same thing goes for style.

If I’d tried to become popular without working on my appearance at the same time, I would never have succeeded.

Now that I’m building online businesses I understand what he means by focusing on one thing at a time.

Your Time + Energy Are Limited

You’ve only got a limited amount of time and energy available to you.

You want to increase both as much as possible.

That’s why you need to exercise daily, have a decent diet and cut out time-wasting activities that leave you more tired (social media for example).

But even if you’ve maximized your energy, it’s still limited.

You need to pour as much of that limited energy into your #1 goal.

How to Optimize Your Lifestyle to Reach Your #1 Goal

Ever since I read “How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big“, I’ve been monitoring my energy levels throughout the day.

I’ve made some interesting discoveries already which I’ll write about in the future.

For now, I want to encourage you to do the same.

Start paying attention to how you feel during different times of the day.

Are you always tired after lunch?

Does writing become easy for you after 10pm?

Start doing activities at unusual times and see if you notice any patterns.

How does this connect with the topic of today’s post?

Let me show you…

Examples on Prioritizing

If my goal was to lose fat and get in shape, I’d sleep a lot more than I do right now.

I can get by on 6 hours of sleep quite happily.

That gives me more time to work on my businesses while working full-time and exercising daily.

However, what I’m doing is not optimal for my physique.

When you’re tired, you eat more.

Sure, you could resist the urge but that takes energy. And if you’re trying to make more money, you can’t waste energy on sticking to a hard diet.

One priority at a time will lead to results.

Also, my performance in the gym isn’t as good as it used to be.

When you’re tired already, killing yourself in the gym doesn’t make sense if your goal isn’t related to training.

I’m usually more tired when I enter the gym than when I leave right now.

That’s because I use exercise as a tool to help me grow my business.

I don’t go to the gym to grow my biceps and chest. I lift weights to grow my income.

Let that sink in for a moment.

If your main goal is to improve your physique, you don’t know what I’m talking about.

And there is nothing wrong with that.

Most guys start their self-improvement journey because they aren’t happy with their appearance or sex-life.

Going to the gym is a crucial part of changing your life.

However, it isn’t the only part.

Pour 100% of your effort into the gym now. Eventually, you’ll improve your body and move on to other goals.

This is a natural process and important for your development.

You absolutely do not want to stay obsessed with bodybuilding forever.

What to Do Once You’ve Reached Your Goal

Eventually, you’re going to get to a point where your goals shift.

The question becomes, will you lose everything you’ve worked for if you focus on something else?

No, of course not.

It takes far more effort to build something than it does to maintain it.

Personally, I don’t even mind if I “lose” 10% of the progress I made when my focus shifts.

Once again, I’m going to borrow steal a concept from GLL…

To be an elite man, you simply need to be above average in a couple of key areas.

Chris talks about this in relation to picking up girls. Personally, I think about life in general in the same way.

Above average friends + above average sex life + above average income + above average health = awesome life

I don’t want to have a top 1% body.

I don’t want to have a top 1% social circle.

If you want either of those things, you will need to sacrifice something else.

I’d prefer to be fairly successful across the board rather than exceptional in one area.

At the moment, I’m obsessed with business.

Who knows, maybe this phase will pass in a year or two and I’ll be satisfied with a low six-figure income.

Or maybe not, we shall see.

That’s all for today.

Until next time,


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  • James, I’ve enjoyed your daily blogging season so far. I liked this one especially thinking about focusing in on one thing. I think you make an astute observation about the gym. Many people make it their main focus at the expense of everything which is fine if that’s their goal. However if you’re building a business or engaged in some other activity (like building a great blog!) then it can’t be your main thing.

    Someone else said:

    “The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.” Good advice all round.

    • James

      Hi Neil,
      That’s a great quote!
      Any idea where you got it from?

      And thank you for your kind words.
      Daily blogging hasn’t always been easy but the reaction from my readers has been encouraging.
      Thanks again,

  • nice read mate and great site btw!