Guest post: Why resolutions suck and how to really get what you want
This is a guest post by Timo Fischer from timo-fischer.com On his site, he writes about Men’s Self-Improvement, Fitness, Health, Mindset and everything that will help you to find and achieve your mission in life.
“Someday I’ll lose weight and go to the gym”, “Things got in my way I’ll get started when I solved my problems”, “I will start once I found out what’s holding me back”, “I have to read and learn a bit more about topic X before I start”, “This year will be different”, “I’m going to change”.
All these empty words. Sound familiar to you?
Reality hits hard, and I am going to break it to you. Nothing will change, if you ever used these phrases or similar ones and never took action in your entire life, then those words are meaningless, and you know it.
Resolutions are not some magical formula that you can use to reinvent yourself from one day to another. Every day after you made that resolution will be the same, unless you take action and even if you take action it will take weeks/months even years until you’ll notice a considerable change.
Let’s take going to the gym and New years resolutions as an example. All these people who hit the gym because of their new years resolution will quit! Why? Because they believe that they’ll see a change immediately, they are not in it to play the long game. Therefore they lose and quit. It’s pathetic, but it happens EVERY DAY.
Here are a few examples of Daily resolutions:
This will be my last cigarette I swear, One last time then I’ll stop watching porn, This will be my last McMuffin then I’ll go on a Diet and workout to lose weight, they are all going to fail.
Let’s take a look at some statistics:
So what do we see here? Only 8% of people are successful in achieving their resolution…. 8% that’s next to nothing. 24% of people fail to succeed and never make their resolutions a reality year after year. What a bummer right?
No, it’s their fault, they lack self-discipline and do the thing for the wrong reasons. Their motives are not good and, therefore the motivation they need is not there.
They fail because they have the wrong mindset, a loser mindset.
They already lost the when they made their resolution. Why? Because they waited for a special day (in this case new years eve) to take action. They thought the New Year will fix their problems without putting in the effort. They should have started as soon as the idea crossed their mind. If you want to change something in your life then what are you waiting for?
Let’s take a look at another statistic:
Do you see the pattern? They are all after short-term gratification, they don’t plan ahead, and they don’t play the long-term game.
Therefore, they lose.
Only 46% of people are aiming for more than six months (which to be quite frank is nothing). 6 months go by so fast if you are doing what you want to do. Sadly the statistic does not tell us how many people have a one year resolution or even a two-year resolution, but my guess is that the number is very small.
How do you get what you want, if resolutions or goals are not the key?
Resolutions, visions, goals they all work but they only work, if you put in the effort, the sweat and the determination to achieve them.
You have to find something that you love and enjoy doing, you must have a vision that moves you forward, and it has to be big.
You have to commit fully to this endeavour and even better have a detailed plan on how to achieve the goal you set out for yourself.
When people tell you it’s unrealistic, then you are on to something.
You have to be disciplined enough to work on days when you don’t “feel” like it, you have to work 24/7 on your goal, no days wasted, no time wasted. Watching TV, reading trivia and celebrity bullshit, having a bad social circle i.e. Netflix and chill or partying every Friday-Sunday, working in a time and energy-consuming job, that pays next to nothing and isn’t fulfilling. Those are the things you have to remove from your life.
While you are removing these negative aspects from your life, you have to replace them with positive ones and create an Upward spiral of success for yourself. How do you do that? Read books and educate yourself, hit the gym workout and build your physique, change your style (wear a watch for example), start your own business and make money online, find like-minded men and build your tribe.
If you can create and Upward spiral for yourself then you’ll change, then the things you were looking for will come, but as always YOU have to take action first.
Doing something is ten times better than doing nothing.
Don’t get trapped in the vicious cycle of mediocrity, stuck in a 9-5 and hoping that everything will get better next year.
Don’t be and act like a brat who thinks the world owes him anything.
Instead, take life into your own hands and change it, step by step.
It’s a never-ending process, continuously improve and become the best version of yourself.
“You are no longer a boy but a full-grown man. If you are careless and lazy now and keep putting things off and always deferring the day after which you will attend to yourself, you will not notice that you are making no progress, but you will live and die as someone quite ordinary. – Epictetus
I hope you enjoyed my first guest post, and I want to thank James for giving me this opportunity!
Thanks for reading and until next time!