Where to Get Advice and Who to Give Advice To

helping people

I love helping people improve and am happy to help in any way I can. However, I will only do so in a 1-on-1 fashion.

Forums are a disaster because you get so many conflicting opinions.

When you’re getting started with lifting weights or building a business, conflicting advice is the last thing you want.

Listen to 1 Expert And Ignore Everything Else

You’re way better off following the advice of one expert you like and ignoring the rest of the noise.

Sure, you might miss out on some information.

But getting everything right on your fist attempt doesn’t matter anyway.

By only following one person’s advice, you have a clear framework to work with.

What’s Better Paleo or Low-Carb?

You don’t need to think about whether a Paleo or a low-carb diet is the better option.

You simply follow what your expert recommends.

Why does that usually work out well?

Because there are many paths to success.

So what’s better Paleo or low-carb?

I don’t like either personally. But they both work if you do it correctly.

Decide whose advice you’re going to follow and then take action.

Don’t question the recommendations.

Just do.

Then, if you realise it doesn’t work after 3-6 months, try something else.

Deciding Who to Help: Screening for Future Winners

I’ve stopped giving advice to people unless they’ve got a track record of following through.

You’ll waste your time and get frustrated.

Then you’ll stop giving advice to action-takers.

That’s a bad mistake because you can help each other succeed.

Plus, it feels good when you can help someone.

Chances are, they’ll return the favour if they can.

How do you identify action-takers?

Well, first you look at what they are doing with their lives.

Obviously, you can’t expect people to be successful in all areas of life.

Usually, an action-taker will be at a good level in many areas but lacking in one.

If he’s smart, he’ll recognize his weakness and seek out someone who can help him with that.

For example, Person A might be in good shape, work out 5 times a week, have a good career and a nice girl friend.

However, he has no idea how to dress.

If he were to ask me for help with style, I’d be happy to help because he’s got a track record of success.

This framework isn’t perfect.

Yes, there are some people who turn their entire life around starting from zero.

You’ll miss out on the chance to help them if they come to you before accomplishing anything else.

So be it.

This decision-making framework isn’t perfect but it has saved me a lot of time.

If you consistently follow these guidelines, you’ll be right far more often than not.

And that’s the best you can hope to do when it comes to predicting other people’s actions.

Closing Thoughts

This post is a little shorter than usual.

I ran out of time today and had to fit my daily post into a busy schedule.

Two 15 minute train journeys with my iPhone notes later, you’ve got this post.

It’s short but I think it covers a valuable framework.

I use it almost daily. Perhaps, you’ll find it useful too.

That’s all for today.

Until next time,


  • Walt

    Hi, James.

    Great advice here. I just listened to a Mike Cernovich podcast and he said the same thing – take advice from one person who is an expert instead of going around asking a bunch of people.

    And you’re absolutely right that it’s best to save your advice for people who’ve already demonstrated through their actions that they’ll actually follow through. Otherwise it’s a waste of both your times.

    Thanks for the great advice!

    • James

      Thanks for stopping by to leave a comment, Walt!

      You’re the type of person I want to help succeed. Easy to work with and listens to feedback AND you can think for yourself.
      Three great qualities you have:)